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Re: Linking Queerness With Fatness

David — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 03:50:38 -0000

My reply doesn't seem to be appearing, so just in case that's not just my browser being weird:

It definitely wasn’t my intention to do that, but I can see where
you’re coming from by suggesting that it was a result of what I said.

Thank you for calling me out on that!

Re: Linking Queerness With Fatness

Kaminiwa — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 11:54:04 -0000

While I suppose technically trans-female genitalia aren't technically "MALE genitalia", it's still entirely possible for a lesbian to quite enjoy cock. Was a bit sad to see it implied otherwise, as it's a common trans-erasure. (I speak as a lesbian whose partners primarily have penises :))

Re: Swimmers (yeah, have you got your SWIMSUIT BODY)

Boxofstaples — Sun, 22 Jan 2012 23:46:20 -0000

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Re: The struggle of being fat and sick (even if they aren’t related things)

Mannadottir — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 10:30:59 -0000

NIck, I feel your pain. It sucks being sick and it sucks that he medical profession is using outdated science on food and what we should eat to advise you. I think you have it in one: you have disordered eating and it is contributing to or causing your diabetes and your low T. You see, when we eat a "healthy diet" as described by docs or the USDA, we are actually causing high blood sugar and high blood levels of insulin, ,making our fat cells insulin resistant and causing strain on our tissues and cells.

Watch the Documentary "Fathead" then take a look on line. I am a woman who suffers with binge eating and food related disorder. This documentary literally changed my life and helped me fix my hormone conditions (diabetes is hormonal- insulin is a hormone. My problems were related to thyroid and PCOS). Its not about fat. Its about what we are told to eat and how very very wrong and bad for us it is. I wish you the best of luck figuring things out.

Re: Why I don’t like the term ‘fat acceptance’

Fat Heffalump — Wed, 04 Jan 2012 05:40:57 -0000

I used to use the term fat acceptance, but I think I've outgrown it for the reasons you mention above. I much prefer fat activism. I am an activist working for the rights of fat people, myself included.

Re: FA101 – What is Fat Acceptance?

Etontaskett — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 17:49:12 -0000

So hairy...so round.

Re: Why I don’t like the term ‘fat acceptance’

Blacey — Fri, 30 Dec 2011 14:11:25 -0000

Interesting post. I've been wondering recently about how I feel about this, and I've decided that I like the term 'acceptance.' After reading your post, I think this is because I do have that emotional connection to that word. Now I celebrate my body, celebrate and embrace fatness, but there was a very long time, a very dark time, when I didn't: when I loathed my body, when I loathed the bodies of others. I had totally internalized all those negative cultural messages about how thin is in etc, and I was a slave to the magazines that implored me to 'love my body' while also showing me what I was supposed to look like (a waif, impossible on my frame) and how to diet to look like I was 'supposed to' according to mags etc. ad nauseum. I thought that loving my body, celebrating my body, was something I could only do when I finally made my body conform - I wasn't going to flaunt it until I got it.
While it felt impossible to love my body, it was something I wanted very much. When I heard about size acceptance, I felt in a way, it would be easy to do ,but that I didn't want it. At the time, initially, I thought it was about giving up on having a perfect body (of course it was about giving up - giving up the fantasy of being thin) but the more I learned about accepting my body and how much happiness it could bring me, the more I felt able to do it. I couldn't go from hating to loving my body, my fat, and other people's fat bodies - I had to go from hate to love THROUGH acceptance. Acceptance was/is a gateway and a building block for me. There was no way I could celebrate my body without making peace with it, and I don't think I could have found my way into loving my body if not for the phrasing 'fat acceptance'. It stood out for me amid the contradictory messages of 'love your body/drop 10lbs in a week.'

Re: Why I don’t like the term ‘fat acceptance’

Mulberry — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 20:27:31 -0000

I like the term "fat acceptance". We'll never come up with the perfect term, and this has served us well.
I don't get your point about fat being not the only kind of OK. You make it sound as if acceptance is black and white. Saying that fat is okay in no way implies that something else isn't okay.
Second, there are a lot of qualities that run along a continuum, and those qualities do not preclude the presence of civil rights organizations. You have, for example, clubs for tall people and clubs for short people, but any cutoff line you draw is arbitrary. Or it may be, as with fat, that part of you fits the cutoff point and part doesn't. I've been known to argue that fat acceptance is even for the person who is Ashley's size, yet thinks she's too fat.
I don't like the idea of celebrating, discussing, embracing as part of a movement title. Maybe some of us not only don't want to hate, but also don't particularly want to celebrate. We want to go about our daily lives as fat people without hindrance.
I am not personally a fan of the term size acceptance. There are issues particular to fat people which we're trying to address. But what really annoys me about the term is that it's been proposed by people who feel we could attract more followers by using the word "size" instead of the hated word "fat"! To me, that just defeats the purpose of fat acceptance.
Ashley, what about thin and muscular types? It appears to me (I'm kind of an outsider on this) that they are accepted in most ways and even held up as role models for the rest of us. They are represented in media in far greater numbers than their actual proportion of the population, and in many positive ways.

Re: Why I don’t like the term ‘fat acceptance’

Diana Rajchel — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 13:51:32 -0000

When I was first learning how to be an LGBT ally, the tiers were explained to me as essentially "opposed, tolerant, [I think it was] supportive, and acceptance." Acceptance was considered the top tier by the chart makers at the time, and I believe that's why it's used so much. You make an excellent point - I often refer to it as "body positivity" myself, because I favor being as inclusive as possible.

Re: Why I don’t like the term ‘fat acceptance’

Ashley — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 12:46:47 -0000

Very good point. I have always liked the term "size acceptance" rather than "fat acceptance" because what about the thin and muscular types? Everyone needs to be accepted, but just not accepted...loved.

Re: An epiphany regarding fat apparel.

Mark — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 15:49:01 -0000

I Have to say that big women in small underwear may make them feel sexy but unless it "firm" you achieve a much better look with it covered. If it a fuller figure it can look quite sexy.

There is nothing worse than it "falling out all over" you pants, top and bottom. Its possibly because a lot of women realise that and don't want to buy "smalls" when they know they look better in "large" that sets the market.

As in all things, there are always those that don't agree with the majority and the manufacturer's work to the biggest market..................

Re: A Fat Bride Survival Guide

JMB — Fri, 16 Dec 2011 16:36:34 -0000

Thanks for this post. I'm a plus size and though I intend to lose weight, I'm doing it as motivation, not as ANYONE ELSE'S DAMN BUSINESS! You know what? My guy loves me for who I am and what I look like now. Putting a ring on my finger isn't a contractual obligation to shed 10, 20 or 100lbs for a day. I'm doing it because I want to be healthy, screw all those people!

Re: FA101 – What is Fat Acceptance?

Louise — Thu, 15 Dec 2011 09:05:28 -0000

Hey Nick, just wondered what you perspective is on the experiences of being fat and male as opposed to the female experience of being fat. It always seems to me to be easier or more 'acceptable' to be a fat guy than a fat girl. But I could well be wrong here. Would be interested in your thoughts for a future post?

Re: A Fat Bride Survival Guide

Ice_princess_333 — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 17:12:14 -0000

I kinda think you took an aggressive and overly defensive attitude... I would almost rather lose a little weight than have to go through all these arrangements to stay out of uncomfortable situations. If you feel great,(and you do look beautiful in your pictures), that's awesome. But, honestly, your super overly defensive attitude makes it seem like you aren't as confident as you claim to be. Also, fat and happy will never make you fat and healthy, no matter how many excuses you make.

Re: Love and other cat-astrophes

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Re: Swimmers (yeah, have you got your SWIMSUIT BODY)

Olivia (waituntilthesunset) — Thu, 24 Nov 2011 08:09:33 -0000

oohhh thanks for the links, I'm shopping for some new togs now!

Re: The struggle of being fat and sick (even if they aren’t related things)

Fivehundredpoundpeep — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 09:02:49 -0000

I am glad you have been allowed to talk about health problems related to being fat on this website. I have multitudes, but also health problems that actually the fat is a SYMPTON of, having had a massive weight gain-hypo-thyroid and other endocrine problems and severe PCOS. I weight @500lbs http://fivehundredpoundpeeps.b... know what health problems and weight do. Hey don't do the lap band, every weight loss surgery I know of failed especially in the over 5 year long term. I have digestive problems now-IBS, maybe something worse that even bring vomiting on if I eat something I am allergic to, so I have avoided any surgeries that have included rearrangement of the digestive organs. When your digestive system is gone, quality of life ceases, thankfully my condition is not every day.

Re: Swimmers (yeah, have you got your SWIMSUIT BODY)

Kelly — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 18:54:24 -0000

Thank you for those. You put a big smile on a big girls face! its great to see some plus size swimwear options :)

Re: Swimmers (yeah, have you got your SWIMSUIT BODY)

Ashley — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 15:48:20 -0000

Gorgeous suits on gorgeous women!

Re: Swimmers (yeah, have you got your SWIMSUIT BODY)

Bri — Thu, 10 Nov 2011 05:23:56 -0000

City Chic and Autograph also have some nice swimmers available.

Re: Hospital stays & independence

Fat Heffalump — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 23:17:06 -0000

Firstly, can I just say... OWW! You poor thing, I hope you're mending rapidly.

It's amazing what having an injury can teach us about disability and accessibility. And our own mortality.

Re: Swimmers (yeah, have you got your SWIMSUIT BODY)

Zoe — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 16:00:42 -0000

Yay swimsuits! (Or togs, as we call them in Queensland). I've just purchased a new one piece from Swimsuits For All - even with postage it was so much cheaper than most swimwear in Australia, and there is a lot more variety available.
The Kiyonna convertible swimsuit is available from http://www.styleandsubstance.c... for $132, and I think that includes postage (I've never ordered from them, though I've heard lots of good things!) They also have the Monif C frilled one piece on deep discount... I want it!

(Where is the swimdress from? I didn't see a link or a store name).

Re: Swimmers (yeah, have you got your SWIMSUIT BODY)

Xfildchild — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 14:18:05 -0000

Has anyone seen Monif C's new swimsuit collection? OMG! Hot hot hotness! Also, swimsuits for all have a nice selection of sizes.

Re: Cosmo says you’re fat. Well I aint down with that. (Actually, I am! You rock!)

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